hey guys! so i'm not sure this will even make sence or if this is where i should put this, but i know i can tell u guys caus ur like a family to me...

my heart almost feels weak, because of the stuff going on in my life right now, is hard to explain


1)My family has been stressing out cause my family is moving in with my grandma to help take care of her. but there have been some road bumbs (and pot holes ) along the way. so we are behind by about 3 months

2) my friends mean the world to me. since jr high i have had some friends come and go, and it's been rough knowing who's real and who's not, but i guess that it's just one of those things that u learn. about a month ago the girl that i had thought was my bestfriend ( for about 3 yrs) we got in a fight, pretty much i think she's been backstabing me A LOT. so i told her that i didn't want to be friends anymore. so we havn't talked since then, but she still posts crap on myspace about me. ....

then theres this girl who when we were young we were always together , her mom was like another mom to be, i would spend days/week/months with her! but in jr high we got in a fight and stoped talking for 2 yrs, finaly we figured that it was stupid and started talking agian and hae slowly been getting closer and closer again. .... now u cant get the two of us apart, we are always together, at school and home.. and her mom is like a mom to me again.. but what scares me is it is my senior yr and we are both going to be going to college (maybe the same one maybe diffrent ones) but im scared i dont want to be with out her again

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3) college,... i havn't even applied yet,
i think i am going to a community college to save money for my first two years of school

4) i got an interview at camp about a summer job, it's my dream job but it is stressing me out over the interview..

5) i love my friends, but sometimes i don't know how much i really mean to them. .. lil story..
3 yrs ago at camp i had a counslor Ben, he tought me some pretty amazing stuff and impacted my life !! but the only time i would see or talk to him was at camp when i would go back each year as a camper.. well in july i found his AIM name on his face book page, and me and him started IMing each other proly 3-5 times a week, we would find out how the other one is doing and find out what the other one need prayers for ect.. pretty much just talk about life.. he's become like a big bro to me, i can count on him, and know they he will be there for me!
when he found out that i was applying at camp he asked to do one of my recomendatioins ( he asked me i didn't ask him) of coarse i wanted him to do it!
we figured out when my interview was at camp and he told me i couldn't leave till he saw me ( cause he was going to be at camp too) ../
now my interview is changed and i dont know if i will get to see him, but he is trying to figure out if he can get there early so we can atleast see each other..

.. i guess i never knew that he'd go through that trouble for me..


thanks for letting me vent, i just needed to get that off my chest

Aw. Whatever happens, evry, you will be OK. You have a good head on your shoulders.

i second that, iris!

i feel for you evry. with all the stuff going on with your family it's good to have friends to rely on - and when those friends hurt you it's hard to know when to forgive and when to move on. if it's any consolation, the person posting crap about you on myspace is hurting too...or she wouldn't be going to the trouble to be posting about you. if you ignore it, she's likely to stop as soon her feelings are less hurt.

college may be a bit intimidating, but it's a whole lot of fun! you'll make a lot of new friends and learn a lot of great things - just like you will learn a lot being a camp counslor. your friends recommendation will mean a lot and really help you get the job, so just go in and be yourself. i've been on a lot of interviews, and i know for sure that you won't be happy working anywhere where people don't like you just as you are. best of luck with that. i hope they are great people who see how fabulous you are!

i also just want to say how wonderful it is that your family is going out of their way to help care for your grandmother.

hang in there, evry!

Evry..

1. Wonderful that your family is helping your grandmother. I'm sure it's going to be and is a hard transition, but it really is a wonderful thing you all are doing.

2. Friends come and go in this world. The great ones always come back. With the internet as it is now, I have no doubt that you and your old/new BFF will remain close no matter where you go to school.

3. There is nothing at all wrong with going to community college for the first two years. My mom teaches at one locally here so I KNOW they are loaded with great teachers! You'll do well no matter where you go. Try not to stress too much about it.

4. Congrats on the interview...you'll do just fine. Go there and just be you and show them your love of the camp and all things "camp counselor" and you are a shoe-in for the gig.

5. I think it's great that Ben would go out of his way for you. That is a friend you can surely count on. Take stock in that! I have found that as we age there are fewer and fewer people we can truly count on. Those that we can should be cherished and treasured. Treasure the friend you have in Ben.

And I echo Iris as well....no matter what happens, you will be OK!

This all sucks. Get through it the best you can!!
Iris, Mish, and Gidget gave great advice/comments. 'It could always be worse'... its a very true saying. I'll pray for you.

I echo what everyone has said. There are a lot of really smart people around here who give good advise.

It is wonderful that your family will be there to help your grandma. Cherish the time you have with her and do your part to get to know her better and to help make her life more enjoyable and comfortable. I know she will appreciate you and you will never forget or regret the extra time you got to spend with her. If her health is ailing, it may be difficult at times, but knowing you were there for her when she needed you most will be a comfort to you some day. Ask her about how things were when she was your age. Grandparents usually love to talk about "the good ole' days".

As far as backstabbing friends go .. this seems to happen a lot in the teen years, oh and it can happen later in life too. The best thing to do is to just rise above it and don't stoop to their level. Know you are better than that and you don't deserve it. Don't be smug, just act like you don't care, even if you do care, and it will pass. Spend your time with people that make you feel good about yourself and spread the love, not the hate. Avoid people that bring you down. They are a waste of time.

College is a transition .. but a good one! My advice for the first year is don't over-load if you can help it. Try 15 credits or less your first semester to see what work load you can easily handle. I learned this the hard way, lol. I was comfortable at 15 credits and totally stressed at 17 or 18. Also, get involved in something at your school, for example, volunteer for something or join a club or tutoring program. It made school a lot more fun and interesting for me and I met some great, diverse people that I would have never had the pleasure of knowing. Take a course on careers if they offer one. That helped me a lot too.

I have a special trick up my sleeve for job interviews. PRACTICE. Think up questions you think they might ask you and practice answering them out loud. Even if they ask you entirely different questions, you will have experience responding to questions being thrown at you. Make up a list and put them on note cards and mix them up. Randomly ask yourself the questions and try to come up with short but meaningful answers to each question. Some questions that are often asked in a job interview are:

1. Why do you want this position and why do you think you would be a good candidate?

2. What are your strengths and weaknesses? (I hate the part about my weaknesses! LIKE I'M GOING TO TELL YOU THAT IN A JOB INTERVIEW! lol. Actually, my stock answer for that is something like this .. My biggest weakness is I am sometimes too critical of myself and worry about things I shouldn't worry about... Be honest and open, but don't ramble on in your answers.)

3. Do you have any questions? (Employers almost always ask this in an interview. My best answer for this is .. 'What are you looking for in an employee?' Then take notes of what they say! That way if you don't get the job this time, you will come back next time with exactly what they said they were looking for. This strategy helped me once when I was turned down for a job. I asked that question in my first interview and didn't get the job. A few months later the position came open again and during my interview the second time, I focused on my strengths that matched exactly what they said they were looking for in my first interview. And yes, I got the job!)

Good luck, and let us know how everything goes with the move and your job interview! My daughter worked at a bible camp during high school and part of college and even at some winter camps as a life guard and a camp counselor. She loved it. She paid cash for her first car by saving most of all her paychecks the first summer she worked there. Since she was almost always at the camp that summer, she didn't have time to spend her money so she gave it to me to put in savings for her. At the end of the summer she had a nice nest egg to buy her first car with.

So .. I know this was long and I have a lot more to say but I will spare you!